When a guy is set to marry , he looks for traits such as , care, love,
respect , good looking , educated , romantic , intelligent, God fearing ,
industrious ,compassionate ,fun to be with etc. I must tell you, there
are some hidden signs you need to look out for, so that you won’t be
catch unaware.
like the saying goes, when you are married,
divorce is not an option. so, be wise. don’t be afraid to break a heart
because your life depends on your future than to toil with it.
NOTE:
This may actually be applicable to ladies too but I will want to speak from an angle of a guy .
1) Negative Minded Ladies.
These
set of ladies are always pessimistic about anything and everything. You
hardly hear them say positive things about any issue except their own
exploit. They are in the habit of giving and pointing to negative
examples every time.
They won’t stop asking you silly questions like “
if armed robber should come to our house and rape me what will you do
?” or assuming we are married and no child for ten years what will be
your reaction? “
Note:
Am not saying one should not
have some fears about life (evils are everywhere) but when one’s life is
dominated in that direction then, there should be a rethink.
Implication:
If you eventually end up with such woman, she will never see anything positive in what you do, no matter how much you try.
This can be frustrating as a man especially the hard working ones.
They
are the type that will always compete with their husband and feel they
can do better than their husband if they have same opportunity of equal
resources.
2)Haters/ Non Appreciative
This type of lady
will always hate anything that doesn’t have anything to do with her.
She will condemn even the best obvious good things.
No news is good news to her in as much she is not part of the beneficiaries. She is not fascinated by good things around.
These
are the type of ladies that see a car of your relative or friend that
worth millions of naira and say its shouldn’t be more than 500k.
She
looks down on anybody that does extra ordinary things, believing it’s
noting special while she can’t even do one per cent of such.
Implication:
These
type of ladies tend to hate every of your family members, friends, and
neighbours when she eventually gets what she want (marriage).
You your self don’t be surprise you will always be a victim day in day out.
Don’t
mind the cordial relationship she is having with people around you now ,
it’s a matter of time when she eventually gets in ,her full blown
colour will show like rainbow in the sky.
3) The Gentle and peace lover
She
is always quiet and smiling. She will always take your opinion as the
best. In most cases, she hardly antagonises your decisions even when
it’s obvious it’s not convenient for her.
She will not let out her opinion so that you won’t be angry.
Not that she doesn’t have one but she doesn’t want to make you angry.
Even if you are angry she will make peace immediately before you get out of her sight . she will always beg .
Note:
Some
ladies are naturally loving and gentle, they take life easy, not that
they are dull but that is just their life style. Most at times its good
to fight separate and come back .
it makes partners stronger. The
separation may be short or long . what is most important is that you
tend to reflect on the relationship if it actually worth it or not.
A situation where one of the parties is always making sure this doesn’t happen, my brother am afraid
.
Implication:
Most
ladies that falls into this category are the ones that are very eager
to marry. She must have witnessed nearly all her mates or younger ones
wedding.
So, they need to form zombie to get what they want. Some
might have been warned by their relatives and blamed their hot temper
for their delay in marriage.
So, they had to subside the temperament till when they would have little or nothing to lose.
When you eventually marry this type of lady, don’t be surprise when you receive the first “adult slap” from your gentle wife.
Watch out. Not only that, you will be surprise when she complains abouabout everything and all things.
Those
are the ladies that gives directly or indirect rules on family and
friends that visit the house while her family members enjoy a free day
anytime any day. She stops begging and most times initiate fights.
4) The masculine worker.
When
you visit a lady in the house and you discover she has the strength of
more than a man .hmmm. You see her fetching water and balancing 50
litters of kegs of water on both hands.
You see her painting her own
room by herself, taking cutlass clear the surroundings, cutting trees
before the Gardner resumes. She kills snakes anyhow. She walks where men
can’t even dare.
Note:
It’s good for ladies to be hard
working and has the ability to do various house shores but there is work
for men and there are works for women. The lady that can do all… hmm.
Implication:
Don’t
be surprises when eventually she gets to the house and she sees nothing
much to exercise her power on hmm… You may need to have some training
in judo or karate.
More also, these kind of ladies will not allow anybody near your house because she believes she can do it all.
When the work load is much, you are incorporated into the kitchen by force by fire.
5) The Wedding Planner.
The
only thing she is excited to discuss is how the wedding day will be.
She doesn’t care about home, about future together, about how to raise
the kids. Those are the desperados. She will never talk of how the two
of you will attend marriage seminar, single programs, discussing family
situations etc.
Note:
It’s normal for ladies to think of wedding
and plan towards that great day. But it’s worrisome if that is the 90%
talk instead of the marriage plan.
Implication:
Most
ladies don’t understand that wedding is not marriage. Most ladies
misbehave when they get to their husband house because they failed to
prepare for it.
They were cut unawares by their husband character which they might have been told at marriage seminars or read about.
How
would they know when they didn’t prepare? More also, they collude with
family members to demand for exorbitant and outrageous bride price even
when you struggle to make sure she leaves her fathers’ house.
6) The Indoor Lady
The
indoor ladies are only exposed to their parent house, schools attended,
NYSC and church. Besides all these places, nothing else.
They can
only talk only on these places in their life time. Worst still, they
never read papers, listen to news, No visitation of any kind and Enemies
of social media.
They are uninformed set of ladies. They are
difficult to train. Worst still, they so much have strong conviction
about the little they know.
They are very difficult to beat in an argument.
They are ready to enter into a blind argument with you. These people are very difficult to train.
You hardly enjoy watching TV with them or accompany you to places. Her sense of judgment is next to error.
Implication:
welcom to a lonely life where electronic gadgets becomes your best friend.
You will prefer talking to yourself like a mad man than discussing with her.
Reason why you see some men glued to their phones in the house.
7) Nollywood Fan
All
their life style is built around Yoruba, Hausa and Igbo movies. They
believe everything they see on their screen. They are millions miles far
away from reality .
They are always suspicious of all the people
around them as evil. They don’t want to make friends so that what
happened to Ronke Oshodioke in “campus girls” movie would not happen to
them in reality.
Implication:
They will give your life rules of life as if you were just born to the world. Citing relevant and irrelevant movies.
8 ) Fighting Parent Influence :
You
go to her house, you over heard her mum screaming on her daddy for
hours , you saw or heard this with your own very ears not once, not
twice.
The fact is, no matter how nice, accommodating, humble, loving
and caring your lady is, you will occasionally get that dose. If you
are very fortunate it won’t be a daily dose.
Implication:
she will make your life miserable!
9) The Past Perfect Secret Keeper (PPSK)
Any lady that fails to give you a hint (if not details) of how she departed from her former relationship(s), is dangerous.
You may soon be the victim of her regular bad character. Like it’s said, character is like a smoke, you can’t cover it.
That
character that destroyed her former relationship she is keeping away
from you will still repeat itself sooner or later. Watch your back bro
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